Life is like Spaghetti

I love spaghetti, but it can be a complicated process to make it. It’s similar to life in that way.

1. There are multiple ingredients, and these ingredients must be balanced in order for the best taste.

Like making spaghetti, life is all about making the ingredients work with one another and to achieve balance. If your life is too heavy on work, you’ll burn out. You need a social life, a sense of meaning in your daily life, perhaps some sort of spirituality, etc. You need your emotional and mental well being in order for your life to be balanced and for you to be a whole person. To top it off, without your physical health, you aren’t going to be around long enough to be able to enjoy the life you’ve created for yourself. Missing out one ingredient can mess up the whole recipe, fouling the taste of the finished dish. Seek to create a balance between your life’s ingredients, recognizing your own deficiencies and taking small sensible steps to remedy the situation.

2. Timing is essential, if you overcook or undercook anything, it ruins the whole dish

Sometimes things don’t work out the way we want them to when we want them to. Life is just like that. If we force things too much, we risk making ourselves and others unhappy just as burned garlic will ruin your sauce. And let’s face it – what is spaghetti without a good sauce? Learning to let things flow until the time is right is absolutely essential. Just like watching all of the ingredients cooking is essential, so is knowing what is going on around us in our lives. If you ignore an issue expecting it to take care of itself, you may very well end up regretting it. This also ties in with our ingredients. If we’re always rushing around worrying about what comes next, maybe we forget to do things necessary to our balance. If you don’t add salt and oil to the water, the spaghetti ends up bland and sticking together, does it not?Intelligently applied action is the key here. It should require minimal effort because you’re neither trying to push things through early or shove them in too late. This is similar to the Taoist concept of wu wei, with its emphasis on effortless, struggle-free action. Like water you should flow, perhaps in this case the water which boils the spaghetti. Just keep one eye on all of your cooking pots and the other on your current task, moving forward one step at a time.

3. In the end, it’s all in the eating.

Once the dish is cooked and on your plate, it ceases to be about the trouble you’ve gone through to get there. If our minds are full of the nonsense of action, worry and business, how can we truly enjoy our spaghetti? This is the same in the case of our lives. What is the use of working so hard if we can’t enjoy the things we’ve earned? What is the point of providing for a family we never see? Again this goes back to balance. When you’re at home, be at home. When you’re at work, be at work. Each moment is a single piece of perfection, ephemeral and there for the seizing. Be there to experience rather than shut away in your own head. When you take a bite of spaghetti, make sure you taste it.